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To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed

SUMMARY ✓ To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed A personal story of crisis commitment and hope from the best selling author of Memoirs of An Ex Prom ueen One day it happens the dreaded thing that will change your life forever the dreadful because though you've half expected it you don't know what form it will take or when it will come and whether or not you will rise to the challenge For Alix Kates Shulman it happened on July 22 2004 at two am on a coastal Maine island in a remote seaside cabin wit I was composing a negative review even as I was reading this book because throughout the book really until the last chapter I did not like the author Not as a writer as a writer she is actually superb The prose are lyrical intelligent and descripitve But I do not like her as a person It appears to me even though she s a mother of two grown children she still managed to live her entire life shockingly self absorbed and selfishly That is until her husband had an accident that resulted in a traumatic brain injury She waxes on about her independence which to me sounded only like absolute self indulgence and selfishness Only after her husband had his accident was she able to actually HELP someone else care for someone else think about someone else s feelings and needs And many many of her friends were telling her to put her husband into a nursing home after the accident Even though he was still rather high functioning begging her not to and the love of her life What kind of people does the author associate with Oh selfish self absorbed petty people All that being said like the author as a person or not the book is a wonderful view into the life of someone with a traumatic brain injury And the last chapter of this book is absolute perfection She presents the concept of amor fati from Nietzsche The entire chapter is beautifully written and absolutely inspiring uote from the book final chapter amor fatimeaning love your fate which is in fact your life he Nietzsche wasn t suggesting that you love only the pleasant parts He himself was suffering extreme physical pain at the time No to embrace life fully meant to him to accept life s inevitable limitations without hiding from them no matter what fate had in store Amor fati he said is not merely to endure necessity still less to deny itbut to love it Not a passive resignation but an active embraceamor fati Love your fate Love what is

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SUMMARY ✓ To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed H no electricity running water or road to reach it where the very isolation that makes it a perfect artist's retreat renders it as risky as life itself She woke to find that her beloved seventy five year old husband had fallen the nine feet from their sleeping loft and was lying on the floor below naked and deathly still Though Scott would survive he suffered an injury that left him seriously brain impaired He was the same but not the same Each of us No matter how much people know that things could happen unexpectedly to someone close that will change their lives forever they don t believe it will ever happen to them Until it does How debilitating that change is to the injured person and how both people as well as others involved depends a great deal on how they are able to respond In the case of Alix Kates Shulman and her husband Scott York their love determination and dedication were their guideposts Both Alix and Scott and went to the same high school although he was three years ahead of her They were in the same biology class one semester and though she thought of him often they didn t meet again until years later when they attended the same college After dating for awhile they went their separate ways Thirty four years later they met again This time they married and had a wonderful marriage In TO LOVE WHAT IS seventy five year old Scott fell nine feet from their sleeping loft and sustained a traumatic brain injury TBI After the accident like many people much of what Shulman heard from the doctors was colored by what she wanted to hear to give her hope The doctor s warning that anything could happen with his recovery and it might take a long time didn t penetrate She was sure he would have a complete recovery and be the same person he was before the fall That didn t happen Her interpretation of what she was seeing and hearing from him often differed from what his therapists saw and heard They were looking for different things Even after accepting his impairment as permanent she still hoped life would return to normal and forget that their lives were are the new normal They had to work with what they had and learn how to cope with their new reality The worse things go for him the greater my resolve to make them better He became childlike wanting constant attention and becoming frustrated and angry when he couldn t do or get what he wanted Unlike a child however his situation would not improve over time In fact it would diminish Like many people with brain injuries or illnesses he was unaware of the changes and lived contentedly in the present moment most of the time particularly when he had constant companionship He rejects unhappiness and counterproductive To both of us action and accommodation are always preferable to passivity or despair which can only prolong the pain If all else fails we ll use our tragedy for making art Interspersed with the story of how life changed for both Alix and Scott is the story of their lives over the year It is the memories of these happier times that enable Alix to put their current situation in perspective and find help and comfort in the past TO LOVE WHAT IS is a love story as well as a guide to facing and dealing with a traumatic life changing event Well written and honest Shulman tells how reality can be flexible depending on perception and how a positive attitude and wonderful memories can make the journey a bit easier How to Do Everything with Photoshop CS2 eBook: Colin Smith: Amazon.fr: Amazon Media EUS.à r.l. great deal on how they are able to respond In the case of Alix Kates Shulman and her husband Scott York their love determination and dedication were their The Compelling Communicator: Mastering the Art and Science of Exceptional Presentation Design guideposts Both Alix and Scott and went to the same high school although he was three years ahead of her They were in the same biology class one semester and though she thought of him often they didn t meet again until years later when they attended the same college After dating for awhile they went their separate ways Thirty four years later they met again This time they married and had a wonderful marriage In TO LOVE WHAT IS seventy five year old Scott fell nine feet from their sleeping loft and sustained a traumatic brain injury TBI After the accident like many people much of what Shulman heard from the doctors was colored by what she wanted to hear to All about Prayer (Salah) Activity Book (Discover Islam Sticker Activity Books) give her hope The doctor s warning that anything could happen with his recovery and it might take a long time didn t penetrate She was sure he would have a complete recovery and be the same person he was before the fall That didn t happen Her interpretation of what she was seeing and hearing from him often differed from what his therapists saw and heard They were looking for different things Even after accepting his impairment as permanent she still hoped life would return to normal and forget that their lives were are the new normal They had to work with what they had and learn how to cope with their new reality The worse things Fois gras et terrines go for him the Ruby on Rails. Desarrollo práctico de aplicaciones web greater my resolve to make them better He became childlike wanting constant attention and becoming frustrated and angry when he couldn t do or The School (Trilogia fantasy): Volume 3 get what he wanted Unlike a child however his situation would not improve over time In fact it would diminish Like many people with brain injuries or illnesses he was unaware of the changes and lived contentedly in the present moment most of the time particularly when he had constant companionship He rejects unhappiness and counterproductive To both of us action and accommodation are always preferable to passivity or despair which can only prolong the pain If all else fails we ll use our tragedy for making art Interspersed with the story of how life changed for both Alix and Scott is the story of their lives over the year It is the memories of these happier times that enable Alix to put their current situation in perspective and find help and comfort in the past TO LOVE WHAT IS is a love story as well as a Nobili parole, nobili abusi guide to facing and dealing with a traumatic life changing event Well written and honest Shulman tells how reality can be flexible depending on perception and how a positive attitude and wonderful memories can make the journey a bit easier

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SUMMARY ✓ To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed Has imagined with dread the occurrence of just such an event outside our control that will permanently alter the course of our lives In this elegant memoir Shulman describes life on the other side the ongoing anxieties and risks and surprising rewards she experiences as she reorganizes her world and her priorities to care for her husband and discovers that what might have seemed a grim life sentence to some has evolved into something unexpectedly rich Shulman s seventy five year old husband sustains a traumatic brain injury when he falls nine feet from their sleeping loft in a remote cabin in Maine This memoir begins on the day of that event which proves to be the beginning of the author and her husband s transformed livesShulman writes in beautiful prose balancing raw emotion with tender loving resilient moments The wisdom of this book could be useful to anyone striving to reconcile challenges in their own close personal relationships


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    (To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed) PDF DOWNLOAD ë Alix Kates Shulman Alix Kates Shulman Ò 1 SUMMARY REVIEW To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed I was composing a negative review even as I was reading this book because throughout the book really until the last chapter I did not like the author Not as a writer as a writer she is actually superb The prose are lyrical intelligent and descripitve But I do not like her as a person It appears to me even thou

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    (To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed) PDF DOWNLOAD ë Alix Kates Shulman REVIEW × TRAMZ.CO Ò Alix Kates Shulman REVIEW To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed To Love What Is is a wonderfully written memoir of Alix Shulman's experience caring for her husband Scott after he fell and suffered a traumatic brain injury She intersperses this story with the story of how they met and eventually got married Alix goes through every range of emotions in her journey to help her husband heal Even when it becomes clear that he may never fully recover to the man he was before the accident her love and desir

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    (To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed) PDF DOWNLOAD ë Alix Kates Shulman Alix Kates Shulman Ò 1 SUMMARY Alix Kates Shulman feminist activist and writer lucidly shares the elastic tension between devotion and indpendence a tension which becomes oh so taut after her husband's accident leaving him with a traumatic brain injury H

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    (To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed) PDF DOWNLOAD ë Alix Kates Shulman No matter how much people know that things could happen unexpectedly to someone close that will change their lives forever they don’t believe it will ever happen to them Until it does How debilitating that change is to the injured person and how both people as well as others involved depends a great deal on how they are able to

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    (To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed) PDF DOWNLOAD ë Alix Kates Shulman 2 am When you are young this is the time that bars close new love springs unbidden in doorways and entire dramas are played out in the time it takes a traffic light to change When you are older with marriage and children under your belt it is the hour at which a ringing phone wakes you in terror not annoyance; when a voice in the darkness si

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    Alix Kates Shulman Ò 1 SUMMARY REVIEW × TRAMZ.CO Ò Alix Kates Shulman REVIEW To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed moving description of life with the author's husband after he suffers a traumatic brain injury by falling out of a loft bed in their summer home She deftly weaves in stories of their earlier life together which are interesting in their own rig

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    REVIEW To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed REVIEW × TRAMZ.CO Ò Alix Kates Shulman Alix Kates Shulman Ò 1 SUMMARY Shulman's seventy five year old husband sustains a traumatic brain injury when he falls nine feet from their sleeping loft in a remote cabin in Maine This memoir begins on the day of that event which proves to be the beginning of the author and her husband's transformed livesShulman writes in beautiful prose balancing raw emotion with tender loving resilient moments The wisdom of this book could be useful to anyone striving to reconcile cha

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  • Hardcover
  • 180
  • To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed
  • Alix Kates Shulman
  • English
  • 04 May 2020
  • 9780374278151